‘Emotion’ is a simple enough word. But when it comes to actually experiencing them – not that simple anymore.
Especially when it comes to family. There is no group of people in our lives more trying than them. Elation, anger, sadness; these are just some of the emotions we experience in the wide spectrum that they make us feel.
Feeling all these emotions is more than alright. How to act on them in an appropriate manner is the tricky part. Sometimes, we tend to bring home the stress and duress of work, and that may translate into negative behaviour from us.
Here are 7 pointers to consider to avoid unleashing your negative feelings and behaviour on your loved ones.
Listen first if you want to be listened to.
This factor is definitely a two-way street. If you have expectations of your family being there to listen to you without you reciprocating it when they need it, you need to re-assess those expectations.
Though your family definitely contributes to the way you may be feeling at a certain point, they are not responsible for your emotional well-being. And they most certainly are not answerable to who you are as a person at your very core.
If you work on yourself, not only do you find your equilibrium from within, but your emotional stability may inspire the rest of your family to follow suit.
Consistency builds trust
This is not just about sticking to your word; it is also about being constant in the way you act. Loving your family one day and frightening them the next leaves them confused. Do not risk their foundation of trust in you being shaken up due to your emotional volatility.
Just because you are close, does not mean you are them.
No one knows you better than family, and no one knows your family better than you. This is a given, seeing as they are the people you spend every day of your life with and around.
This tight bond, however, does not mean that you are the same person. Every individual has their individuality, and you have to accept that. Regardless of how similar your thought-processes may be, each member of your family has their own take on different issues, and respecting that is crucial in avoiding conflicts.
An apology goes a long way.
‘Sorry’ is such a small word, yet takes the greatest efforts for some to be able to say. Apologising does not equate to lowering yourself, especially when it comes to those you love. On the contrary, it makes them respect and trust you more.
Asking how you can make amends is a good follow-up to a sincere apology.
Evaluate why you and them may not be on the same page.
If you have children, you know better than anyone how tough it is to see eye-to-eye with them on certain issues. Of course, they cannot have everything that they wish for, but is saying no all the time good? Especially when they are genuinely insisting on something? Taking a step back at times like this to assess why you are so strongly against it and trying to understand why they are persistent on certain choices is highly recommended.
Accept and value every phase of life in your loved ones.
Last but far from the least, accept your family for who they are. Your children will not always be children, just like your parents are not going to stay strong and able forever.
Valuing each different stage of life they enter, along with your own, establishes a strong sense of understanding. This goes a long way in strengthening familial bonds and ensuring a happy family.
These tips are only brushing the surface of what you can do to lead a happier life with a happier family over the years, but they are a solid start and foundation to doing so.
Try some when you get home today. I promise you, just a smile from your loved ones will make all the effort worth it.
Shreyaa Kanneboina, PR and Marketing Executive